Sunday, July 11, 2010

Disciplining Your Toddler With Love

The topic of disciplining your toddler can bring up some very mixed reactions. Some people think it's perfectly okay to try and give a time out to a two year old while others think children should rule the roost until they are much bigger. This author has beliefs somewhere down the middle which I would be happy to share.

Don't spank:

I would be lying if I said I never spanked my child. I don't believe in premeditated spanking. In that I mean that there have been times when my child has sufficiently put themselves into a dangerous enough situations that I felt it warranted a swat to let them know what they did was serious. The instances I am talking about are something akin to running out in the street.

I would also be lying if I said I never spanked my child out of anger. To me, this is the worst way to go about disciplining your toddler. As a new parent I did not have resourcefulness at times to handle disciple in a more responsible way. As my parenting expertise grew, I realized there were other more effective modes of disciple.

Remember their age:

Toddlers are little people. Most of the time they don't know they are doing anything wrong. Sure they may want to run naked after a bath into the front yard, or throw their Cheerio's all over the kitchen floor. They are having fun and don't realize how their actions impact others. I think as children get a little older, say four and five; they have a better grasp on the difference between right and wrong.

Biting and how to stop it:

Biting can be downright dangerous and needs to be corrected as early as possible. As the parent of a biter, I was often at odds how to stop it. My oldest bit me all the time. It's when she started biting children at daycare that I became worried. They taught me to gently tap on her teeth, give a stern admonishment, and remove her from the premises by placing her in a crib for a few minutes. After a while, she eventually learned.

Bed Wetting:

I am of the opinion that disciplining your toddler for bed wetting isn't a good idea. Children have varying degrees of muscle control at the toddler age. While one child never has an accident after the age of two, another may have problems through the first grade.

They now have on the market "pull ups" for older children that are discreet under pajamas. Never shame your child for bed wetting. They need to be in charge of their own bodies and when the time is right, they will quit.

Don't expect your children to perfectly behaved children. Set firm, loving rules that you can impose on a stricter level with more consequences as their age permits. Disciplining your toddler needs to be age appropriate.




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